How to Help Your Kids Prepare for the Big Move

September 30, 2022 Selling a Home

Being a dad to Ellie (6), Katie (5), and Fletcher (20 months) is one of my greatest joys.

There's nothing like coming home at the end of the day and having them come running, screaming, "Dad's home!" Putting aside the day's troubles, my phone, and giving them my 100% attention to focus on what they love to do is the best part of being a dad.

On the flip side, being a parent is challenging too. From getting enough sleep to ensuring each one of them feels uniquely special, it can be tough to know how to handle what comes at you.

I've seen this in the real estate business as well. If you're preparing for a move, you may dread telling your kids about it. If that's you, check out some tips below to help prepare them for what's ahead.

Maintain Your Routine

Moving can break a child's routine and be stressful for even the most relaxed kids. Do your best to ensure your kids have as much familiarity and routine as possible, such as their eating, playing, napping, and bedtime schedules to help them with the transition. It will be their anchor in the storm.

Eliminate Surprises

Disneyland surprises = good. "We're moving" surprises = bad.

Don't spring the news on your kids. Set aside a particular time for breaking the news where your kids can ask questions, and you can discuss it. Smaller kids may appreciate the information as a story, while you should be prepared to give more details and explain why the move is needed to your older kids.

As your kids process the news, they will have new questions. Let them know they are welcome to ask as many questions as possible.

Ask Them How They're Feeling

It's important to encourage your kids to express their emotions.

It's normal for many emotions to pop up at odd times and come with anger, tears, or open defiance about the whole idea. Just remember to be there for them and reassure them as much as possible.

Give Them Time

Even if you have all the conversations and provide as much support as possible, you may find your child still has difficulties with the move.

All you can do is give your kids time to adjust. Some kids can transition within a week or two; others may take months.

Age-by-Age Guide

If you'd like more age-specific tips, check out the article "15 Tips For Moving with Kids: An Age-by-Age Guide" by Jennifer King Lindley of Parents magazine. Here's a preview.

Babies and Toddlers

Pause for snuggles.
Keep explanations simple.
Pack their bedroom last and unpack it first.
Keep to crucial routines.

Preschoolers

Talk about what's happening.
Visuals are useful.
Let your child "help."
Take advantage of their total obsession with boxes.
Be a friendship coach.

School-Age Kids

Don't take it personally.
Find ways to say goodbye.
Set up an email for your kid.

Selling your home can be stressful for everyone in the family. With these tips, I hope everything will go smoother for you.

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